'She purposely dumped coffee on a kid': Wife teaches friend's kid a hard lesson when parents refuse to intervene, parents freak out

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    Font - Posted by u/Perfect_Ear2994 AITA for defending my wife after she purposely dumped coffee on a kid? My wife and I are both 34 and kid free. My brother "Mack", 28, started dating 30yo "Heather" roughly a year ago and she came with 3 kids. 12yo "Anna", who is 100% the problem child. The boys (6+8) are great. Anna on the other hand purposely does so to po people off at every turn and is extremely defiant and her mother let's her get away with it.
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    Font - We own a camp on the lake and once a year we host a large BBQ and weekend stay for the entire family. Mack brought Heather and the kids. Anna was a sall weekend. Picking fights with people, throwing tantrums, hitting, etc. And Heather just stood back saying "I don't know why she acts like that" rather than do anything to correct her kid. My wife was getting noticeably more pOd off as the hours progressed but nothing like yesterday. Yesterday we were all sitting out on the deck talking and
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    Font - foot, per usual. She was told to go play with the other kids several times and she refused. Finding excuses to be involved in the conversation. Which included picking up a fly swatter and swatting at flies around all the adults- knocking over our coffees several times. She was also smacking my wife with the swatter repeatedly saying there were flies on her when there wasn't. My wife at one point looked at Heather and said "either get your kid the fout of here or I'm going to lose my slO".
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    Font - dumping my wife's fresh coffee all over the place (including on her) for the second time (cold coffee- my wife doesn't drink hot coffee). Heather said a clipped "Anna go play" and that was it. No follow through. Well, Anna comes right back in and slaps my wife on the forehead with the swatter and says "bug, missed him". My wife took her coffee (her 3rd one that she just made. Again, cold) and flung it at Anna, covering her. Anna immediately starts crying and Heather flips out, so does my
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    Font - Saying that my wife was an immature ca and that she's "just a fog kid". My wife calmly puts her cup down and continues conversation like nothing happened, as Anna, Heather and Mack are all flipping out. But then Heather says "do you have anything to fOng say for yourself?" And my wife says "don't let the door hit you and your demon spawn on the aon the way out". Some of the adults are saying maybe an apology is warranted and that we are AHs for not giving one. I personally don't think so.
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    Font - ETA: there were plenty of times my wife specifically had told Anna to stop and she had even taken the fly swatter from her at one point. Anna went and mocked my wife and then grabbed a new swatter, while Heather and my brother ignored Anna and what she was doing. Hence, why Anna kept doing it. Several times the other adults spoke up to this
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    Font - kid as well- AND spoke to Heather about "stepping up" and telling her kid to stop and actually following through. Many steps were taken before it got to this point. No, my wife shouldn't have had to remove herself from the equation when it's our property and everything was on our dime. My brother and his sorry excuse of a mom GF should
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    Font - have corrected the issue from the beginning. 12 is plenty old enough to know right from wrong. Even her brothers don't pull that sho Just a quick add: it is NOT my wife's job to set an example, like some of you are saying. We are kid free for a reason. Anna and her sorry excuse of a mother were warned several times by my wife, me and the other adults. Beyond that, it's a them issue.
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    Font - TootsNYC 2 hr. ago When I was a kid, there was a kid at my church who was younger than me (he was about 8 or 9) and had figured out how to pinch people, REALLY HARD. He liked that it made people yelp, and he got to interject himself into situations from behind. His parents would scold him, take him aside, take things away from him. It didn't really matter; they couldn't really stop him.
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    Font - He pinched my mom, who whipped around and grabbed his arm really hard and said, right in his face, "If you pinch me again, I am going to pinch you back, and you are not going to like it. You've been warned." He looked a little disconcerted and looked at his parents, who just looked back at him silently.
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    Font - The next week, he was pinching people again, and he pinched my mom. She grabbed him and PINCHED THE SIO OUT OF HIS ARM. Really hard. Fingernails and all-and she had big, strong hands. He yelped! And look at his parents, who looked at him levely and said, "She warned you." and turned their back on him. That was it. He stopped. He finally understood that it hurt. But a huge part of it was that his parents didn't defend him. You might think Anna would learn from this-but not if the parents d
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    Font - Rare_Chapter_8091 · 3 hr. ago ΝΤΑ Anna needs to understand life has consequences. Cold coffee is a very small one. 1.3k Reply Share geof2001 2 hr. ago She's clearly never seen one before with the way Heather is raising her. Reply Share 189
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    Font - Cand Thonestpartners. 4 hr. ago I would have took the fly swatter and hit your brother gf with saying there is a fly on you. If you don't like sort your kid out. Personally I'd ban them from ever stepping foot on my property ever again. The kid assaulted you wife so many times whilst her mum stood by and let her and your brother did jack s She's lucky she didn't get a smack. Reply Share 3.2k
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    Font - Perfect_Ear2994 OP. 4 hr. ago My wife did ban them from the property. If she hadn't, I would have. It sos because Heathers boys are do good kids and are being essentially punished for their sister and moms poor behavior but it is what it is. 2.1k Reply Share vpblackheart 4 hr. ago Invite the boys next time. Exclude the rest of them. Your wife deserves a medal. 1.5k Reply Share
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    Font - Nearby_Highlight6536 3 hr. ago NTA. Might be an unpopular opinion, but I think your wife is amazing. Your brother and especially Heather are the ones to blame. They should be apologizing for the kid's behavior. This definitely sounds like a parenting- problem. 1.5k Reply Share MissMurderpants 3 hr. ago. Wife should have also thrown a coffee on the gf. 299 Reply Share
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    Font - Fun_Eye_2612. 4 hr. ago NTA. Ban them from all future events 416 Reply Share
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    Font - Significant-Owl5869. 4 hr. ago NTA. Touch me with a fly swatter and it'll be a fOng war fr. 388 Reply Share What Happened Monday 3 hr. ago Thank you! Heather would be pulling a fly swatter from a nether region. Reply Share 128

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